THE SLANTED - Dec 30 - eHarmony has surveyed its married couples to find out “How Long Does it Take to Meet Your Spouse?" ~70% of respondents meet their spouse within a year. The median time from when people are matched to when they marry is 1.8 years. The average pair lived 20.2 miles apart when they were first matched. On average, husbands are 2.39 years older than their wives.