
HBS WORKING KNOWLEDGE – Simple shifts, like paying closer attention and delegating clearly, ease tension at home and can also build stronger teams. Couples who experience more gratitude and less resentment for one another shared two key patterns: Men showed greater attunement to household needs, and women delegated tasks to their partners more explicitly. Workplaces may also benefit when leaders pay closer attention and delegate assignments. Researchers defined gratitude for both men and women as the recognition that their partner was going above and beyond to do the unexpected. Mismatched expectations fuel resentment. Men grew resentful when they felt unrecognized. Delegation and paying attention matter. Teams also function better when managers recognize employees’ full cognitive load – both professionally and personally – and respond with clarity and flexibility.









