Shared Qualities For A Successful Relationship

WASHINGTON POST -- Apr 24 -- The Washington Post recently conducted an interview with psychologist Gian Gonzaga, lead researcher inside eHarmony Labs, the online dating service’s think tank. Gonzaga stated that the core qualities partners should share if they want their love to last are primarily personality traits, such as temperament, openness to experience, how introverted or extroverted each person is, etc. He also stated that the literature does not support the adage "Opposites attract", and claims that after running the numbers, eHarmony is responsible for 236 people getting married each day, or 44,000 couples a year. FULL ARTICLE @ WASHINGTON POST

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[Fernando Ardenghi]

"We've actually found in some of the studies we've been doing in the lab that people who are more similar to each other in their personalities are better able to discern their partner's emotional states."

is consistent with other papers like
"ASSORTATIVE MATING AND MARITAL QUALITY IN NEWLYWEDS: A COUPLE CENTERED APPROACH", February 2005 at "Journal of Personality and Social Psychology"
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Couple Similarity and Marital Quality.
Our study presents one of the most comprehensive examinations of the similarity–satisfaction link. The observed similarity–satisfaction correlations suggest that similarity on personality related domains was strongly associated with satisfaction, whereas similarity on attitude-related domains was not.
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People may be attracted to those who have similar attitudes, values, and beliefs and even marry them (at least in part) on the basis of this similarity. However, once individuals are in a committed relationship, it may be primarily personality similarity that influences marital happiness. This suggests that attitude and value similarity may play a different role in relationship development than personality similarity does. For example, whereas similarity in attitudes and values appears to be important early on in the relationship and may play an important role in relationship progression, personality similarity becomes more important as the relationship reaches greater commitment.
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Future Research designed to better understand these underlying processes is needed."

also

In August 2005, Dr. John A. Johnson told me, "There are probably undiscovered factors beyond similarity of any type that determine relationship quality."

Although how_to_assess_personality and how_to_calculate_similarity
are different recipes for online dating sites, academics & researchers.

There is no actual online dating site using the complete personality inventory as described by Dr. Raymond Cattell in ... 1949!

Fernando Ardenghi.
Buenos Aires.
Argentina.
[email protected]