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Patrick

The debate continues today whether or not "full disclosure" should be a part of the online dating world. In 2010 transparency through the web is just as natural and common as calling Mom on Sundays. Yet, online dating is still masked with the perception by its users that only so much of the truth should be revealed. Old photos, pseudonyms, body type misrepresentation... you name it.

Do I want a potential date to know how much I spent on my nose job before we ever meet? Probably not. But should I hide the fact that I had a nose job? Probably not if I tweeted about it!

Having nothing to hide is very different from being dishonest. Online daters should embrace the the truth factor, but tread lightly when it comes to full disclosure, after all... you are trying to attract someone!

Mark Brooks

One of my favorite sites for great lines of questioning is OurStory.com. See http://ourstory.com/q_a.html

If you're building a dating site and considering what kinds of questions to ask, you should review the site for inspiration. The questions were thought provoking and cause members to reveal their story in a detailed and interesting manner. Nerve.com has some great questions as well. Also worth a look-in.

I encourage idating users to be honest in their profiles. Lies are no way to start a relationship. One of the things women frequently list in their profiles is that they want to meet someone who is honest. So if you lie in your profile, you're basically telling them you're a liar. Why not just tell the truth, and show that you're someone to be trusted. You may have to work harder to get out on that first date, but the end result will probably be better when the person you're dating realizes that you're a straight shooter.

One of the ways you can build trust is by revealing details of who you are in your profile. You don't need to spill your guts on everything, but just showing some level of detail helps you stand out from the crowd and adds a layer of character to your profile that can help get more results. You like theater, great, what kind, why and what did you see last? You like going for walks on the beach, great, so does everyone else. Is it because you like running 10 miles on the beach at 6am. Or taking beach walks at dusk with your labrador at the waters edge where the sand feels great on your bare feet. Who are you? Details please. if you're not good at expressing yourself, hire a coach or profile helper to assist you in bubbling the best up into your profile.

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