DATEBUZZ BLOG - Feb 2 - John Grays’
Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus tells its readers that men and women are from different planets. Neil Strauss’
The Game presents readers with a slightly different paradigm, where men are locksmiths and women locks to be picked. Input the right code (pick-up line or body posture) and you might get her phone number. Ellen Fein and Sherrie Schneider, co-authors of
The Rules, telling women not to talk to a man first, call him, stare at him, talk too much or return his phone calls too often. Sherry Argov, author of
Why Men Love Bitches, backs them up on this. In the world of online dating, an arena unconstrained by the traditional restrictions of offline dating, rules were made to be broken. As a guy or a girl, this means four things:
1. Responding to someone’s message as soon as you’d like to if you’re interested – no need to wait.
2. If you’re female, why limit your choices to just the guys that have sent you a message? Go ahead and take the leap by sending off a few first messages of your own.
3. And for the guy obsessed with mastering the perfect first message or the ideal pick-up line – focus on just being yourself.
4. And for those that are wondering about that message they sent last week but didn’t hear back on – move on. He (or she) is just not that into you.
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John Gray spoke at the Internet Dating Conference 4 years ago. He suggested that the internet dating industry encourage users to get out on 20 dates before making a selection for a longer term relationship.
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Posted by: Mark Brooks | Feb 09, 2011 at 04:14 PM