Is There A Science To Compatability?

PSYCHOLOGIES MAGAZINE - Apr 24 - The problem with online dating is that it’s easy to overlook potential ideal mates. The top-notch scientists hired by dating agencies insist that you have a far greater chance of meeting The One this way. ‘It’s online introducing,’ says Helen Fisher, anthropologist and chief scientific adviser at match.com. ‘You’ve got to get out there and get to know someone.’ Professor Robin Dunbar, a psychologist at Oxford University suggests that much of the interesting research on what makes people click has been based on friends rather than romantic partners. ‘Social psychologists have identified six key elements for compatibility in friendships,’ he says. ‘These are: speaking the same language and a similar background; education level; moral/political outlook; hobbies/interests; and a shared sense of humour.’ When it comes to fireworks between men and women, however, it is difficult to predict how far these basic rules of compatibility apply. Sometimes opposites attract, but we know they can just as easily repel. Most experts agree that the more you know yourself, the better. Everyone is the right and wrong person, there is no totally right person.

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Comments

[Mark Brooks]

Common sense applies. Something is better than nothing. Dating sites allow people to get the tough questions out of the way right up front. Which ensures them a slightly better match. Better than asking next to nothing and going completely with 'chemistry.' As important as it is, chemistry alone won't make a happy marriage. At some point, values and differences in attitudes and interests will make or break a relationship.