THE ALGEMEINER - July 6 - Robert Epstein, the Harvard-educated Senior Research Psychologist, has studied arranged marriages. According to Epstein, feelings of love in arranged marriages tend to gradually increase as time goes on, whereas in so called “love marriages”, a couple’s feelings for each other typically diminish by ~50% after 2 years of marriage. Even pretending to be in love can contribute to deep relationships, says Richard Wiseman, whose book on the subject, Rip It Up, came out this week. In the US, an estimated half of all first marriages and two thirds of all second marriages fail. The Jewish divorce rate is substantially lower. Francine Kaye, a British divorce therapist, sees arranged marriages as a good way to ensure similarities between people. “An arranged marriage is not perfect, but in some respects it’s better than a love marriage” says Epstein. “I’m not saying we should practice it, but I do think we can learn from it.”
by Ezriel Gelbfish
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