Arguing In Relationships Isn’t A Bad Thing

QUEENDOM - Aug 22 - Queendom.com and PsychTests.com’s latest study on the role of conflict in couples indicates that arguing itself is not a problem, it's how the couple fights that matters.  65% of people they studied agree that arguing can be healthy in a relationship. Of those who have had arguments that lead to break-ups:

• 31% refuse to be the first one to apologize after a fight
• 33% point out their partner’s faults/character flaws
• 60% will bring up all the issues that are bothering them at once

"Arguing can be a way for a couple to grow and better understand one another. There are ways to fight constructively,” explains Dr. Ilona Jerabek, president of the company. Here are her tips:

• Don't try to avoid confrontation at all costs
• Don’t attack your partner's character. Instead, discuss specific behaviors and how you feel about them
• Figure out what the fight is really about and focus on it
• Try to understand how your partner sees the situation
• Admit your mistakes
• Take a time-out if things get too heated
• Accept that some issues just can't be resolved in one argument

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