Q: What does your day look like?
A: There is no typical day in my life. Some days I have 10 meetings, and each is about a completely different part of the business. My first activity every day is crafting my calendar. John Wooden said, "Make every day your masterpiece," and that is brilliant advice.
Q: What are your work life balance goals?
A: I'm a big believer in the stoic philosophy of only being focused on the things that you control. I can't control whether people use eHarmony, but I can drive our staff to make our apps work better, match better, and be easier to use. To be truly effective in my role, I need to spend time with my children. I have to exercise and stay physically strong. Stephen Covey called it "sharpening the saw". If you're going to work every day with a dull saw, you're not doing anyone any good.
Q: How has your work life balance changed throughout the years?
A: I can remember in my 20's being in the grip of a terrible depression. I went to see a psychologist. I told her that my real passion was making music, and I just wanted an undemanding day-job to make money for expenses. She said, "This is why you're depressed." She told me that I had plenty of mental and physical energy to work an engaging job in the daytime and play music at night. It completely changed my life.
Q: Do you have any tips for balancing career, kids, and the marriage?
A: People like to say, "Marriage takes work." I think that's crazy. Marriage takes attention. My best advice for work and family is simple...When I'm at work. I'm at work. I don't chat with my wife or friends at work. But when work is over…I'm not working!