MENSHEALTH - Feb 10 - Nikki Lewis and Greta Tufvesson reveal the best, worst, and weirdest parts of their job. The Bevy's hand-selected clients meet with Tufvesson and Lewis to hash out what they're looking for in a partner; from there, the matchmakers pair them with other smart, successful singles in their circle.
Q: How many marriages have you "created"?
A: ~35 marriages and counting.
Q: What's the most common reason the men you work with are still single?
A: We work with some of the most eligible bachelors who have no problem meeting women and dating on their own, but like many accomplished and busy men, they've reached a point in their lives where they value accomplishing certain goals - like relationships - more proactively, efficiently, and effectively. They tend to be very particular about who they're looking to meet, and we are able to get them there quicker.
Q: What's the most common reason the women you work with are still single?
A: Many of our female members are busy, too, and want to focus on quality versus quantity.
Q: What's the single hardest part of your job?
A: The hardest part of this job is predicting chemistry. I have felt 110% positive about certain setups and I’m floored when the feedback was "Great person, just not for me."
Q: How important is physical attraction when it comes to finding a life partner?
A: Physical attraction is pretty instantaneous for men, and develops with women. Physical attraction is usually a baseline for chemistry for men, but not necessarily for women. We always urge a second date if our clients are unsure.
Q: How important is sexual chemistry when it comes to finding a life partner?
A: It is important but not enough to make a long term partnership work. It needs to be substantiated with morals, intellectual stimulation and shared goals.
Q: What are the biggest mistakes men make on first dates?
A: Men often talk too much about themselves in order to prove their worth.
Q: What's the biggest misconception people have about your job?
A: I think that the industry as a whole has a negative stigma largely based on reality TV shows. Our clients are private, sophisticated and serious.
Q: What's your best piece of advice for people who are single and feeling like they'll never meet the right person?
A: You will if you let go of who that person is 'supposed' to be.