BUSINESS INSIDER - Dec 25 - Online dating has, one expert suggested, made it easier to leave unhappy relationships. According to Eli Finkel, a psychologist at Northwestern University and a professor at the Kellogg School of Management and the author of "The All-or-Nothing Marriage," there was a time when, if you wanted to meet someone else, you'd have to get dressed up and go to a bar. A few years ago, psychotherapist and relationship expert David Kavanagh was quoted saying something similar in The Independent: Infidelity is hardly new, but dating apps have made it easier for people who are unhappy in their relationships to find someone else.
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Online Dating's Side Effect
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The CEO Of Hinge Sometimes Goes 2 Weeks Without Checking On His Team
BUSINESS INSIDER - Oct 27 - Hinge founder and CEO Justin McLeod doesn't have email on his smartphone. He said it makes him a better leader because he has time and space to think. The only things he can currently do with his phone are check the time, make calls and send texts, listen to music, and browse Hinge. "I'm a much better decision-maker, I'm a much better strategist, I'm a much better leader when I'm not wrapped up in the minutia of what's going on in the company and what's going on in the world," McLeod told Business Insider. "I'm giving myself the space." When he takes vacations, he doesn't check in with his staff for "a week or two at a time." In fact, McLeod made the decision to "reboot" Hinge, in 2016, while he was away from the office and spending Thanksgiving with his family. With the time and space to think clearly, he realized that Hinge had become too similar to other dating apps. Hinge subsequently made a number of changes to the app, most notably removing the swiping feature. Today, it bills itself as "the relationship app."
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Women Across The US Are Spending Thousands On Dating Coaches
BUSINESS INSIDER - Sep 24 - In cities across the US, a growing number of successful women in their 30s are hiring dating coaches to help them find long-term relationships. Both coaches and clients say the goal isn't to find the perfect person right away, but to learn the skills to find and maintain a healthy partnership. These coaches charge anywhere from $1,800 to $18K for different types of services. Damona Hoffman is a certified dating coach and host of the Dates and Mates podcast in Los Angeles. ~70% of her clients are women, typically high earners and feeling the pressure of society. By contrast, the men tend to be less career-focused and haven't developed the skills to approach or flirt with women. Evan Marc Katz is one of the first dating coaches to market himself as such (he started coaching in 2004). Katz, who works exclusively with women, said those who reach out to him are typically at a breaking point. They don't know what's wrong with them and they're afraid of being alone forever. Katz teaches every client the "2-2-2" rule: Exchange two messages on the dating site, exchange two emails, and then have two phone calls before a first date. "It specifically teaches people to avoid becoming part of some guy's texting harem," he said.
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Relationship Experts: Dating Apps Can Be Useful But Not Necessarily For Finding Love
BUSINESS INSIDER - July 25 - Claudia Duran is in the sometimes-helpful-but-mostly-making-things-worse camp: She uses the term "swipe vulture culture" to describe people's behavior on these services. Duran is a Miami-based matchmaker at dating service Elite Connections, where she charges $15K for a six-month membership. "People start to become reliant on that sort of high and instant 'Wow! They like me!'" It doesn't take long, she said, before "it really becomes an ego-feeding thing, rather than going out there, sitting with someone, and really just starting to get honest and vulnerable," she said. "The best thing about online dating is that it widens your pool of prospective mates," said Eli Finkel, who is a psychologist at Northwestern University, a professor at the Kellogg School of Management, and the author of "The All-Or-Nothing Marriage." Jess Carbino, Bumble's in-house sociologist recommends spending 30 minutes a day and then using the rest of your time to actually go on dates with people you've matched with.
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Elite Dating App The League Is Hosting A Luxurious Cruise In France
BUSINESS INSIDER - June 30 - This August, dating app The League is hosting a weeklong cruise in France, in conjunction with U by Uniworld. ~80 users will mix and mingle in the hopes of finding love; the itinerary includes touring Versailles and biking along Seine. So far, ~2,600 League users have applied. Depending on the type of accommodation, the price of a flight and a room is ~$3k.
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Coffee Meets Bagel Co-founder Found Her Partner On The App By Using A Few 'Cheesy' Lines
BUSINESS INSIDER - June 23 - Coffee Meets Bagel cofounder and co-CEO Dawoon Kang met her current partner on the app several years ago. In her profile, she mentioned that she was "in pursuit of my personal legend" and was looking for someone who "aspires to be a contribution to the world." Kang was not interested in being cool when she put together her Coffee Meets Bagel profile. And whatever she did clearly worked, because she's still dating the person she met on the app. In May, the app raised $12M, meaning it has raised a total of ~$20M since launching in 2012.
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CoffeeMeetsBagel: There's A Big Difference Between How Men And Women Date Online
BUSINESS INSIDER - Jun 19 - In 2016, dating app Coffee Meets Bagel introduced "#LadiesChoice," a new format that offered men and women distinct user experiences. Men would receive up to 21 "bagels," or matches, every day at noon, and the app would then present women with a curated selection of the men who had liked them. Users who identify as LGBT would receive up to six matches a day. According to Dawoon Kang, a Coffee Meets Bagel cofounder, the company made this change because they'd seen stark differences in the way men and women date online. "The more bagels we give to men, the more engaged they are. They like it. They actually like going through profiles and checking out different women." On the other hand, Kang said, "When we gave more bagels to women, the attention that they give drops significantly. They stop responding. They stop checking." In 2016, scientists at Queen Mary University of London, Sapienza University of Rome, and Royal Ottawa Health Care Group found that women on Tinder generally swipe right only for men they're seriously interested in, while men are less picky. But when it comes to sending that first message, the researchers found that just 7% of male matches sent a message, compared to 21% of women.
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Some 'Sugar Daddies' Provide Business Advice, Mentorship, And Investments
BUSINESS INSIDER - June 7 - The term "sugar dating" typically refers to a relationship in which a younger woman pairs up with an older man who can help support her financially, while she provides romantic companionship. But sugar dating can mean mentorship - without romance or sex. Some sugar daddies are open to business relationships from the beginning, and it's not uncommon for sugar babies to have entrepreneurial ambitions that they seek sugar daddies' help with.
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Dating Apps Tend To Connect Neighbors And Friends Of Friends
BUSINESS INSIDER - June 1 - Dating apps are increasingly connecting people who live or work close by, have the same commute, or went to college together. Match.com data reveals that 69% of active users set their default distance - i.e. how far away a match can live - to five miles. Meanwhile, dating app Clover found that, in New York City, most matches happen between people from the same borough. Still, Hinge reports that less than half of users set a maximum distance, and of those who do, the average maximum distance is 25 miles.
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SeekingArrangement Hosted "Sugar Baby Summit"
BUSINESS INSIDER - May 9 - SeekingArrangement, an online dating service for sugar babies and daddies, hosted a conference in New York City. One of the panels focused on money in sugar dating. According to the panelists, sugar dating isn't just about money - it's about developing a relationship and respecting each other's feelings. In fact, it's generally considered a faux pas to ask for money right off the bat. "The financial aspect of the relationship is something that can be brought up once a level of trust has been built. Anyone asking for money upfront is treating the situation as a job, and Sugar dating is not a job, it's a lifestyle choice," according to the website.
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The Latest Relationship Trend Is 'Slow Dating'
BUSINESS INSIDER - Mar 22 - Dating apps are starting to offer fewer, more curated matches. Dating app Once delivers users one match per day. Then, users have 24h to decide whether they are interested. Once has been available in Europe since 2015; it launched in the US in Feb 2018 and now has 200K US users. Coffee Meets Bagel, which launched in 2012, also presents women with one "bagel" (match) a day. (Men receive up to 21 matches every day and select the people they like, so the app chooses women's bagels from among the men who indicated they liked them.) The League, which launched in 2015, is a more selective dating app for ambitious professionals. Then there's Happn, which debuted in 2014 in Paris. Users who subscribe to Happn Essential get 10 chances to "Say Hi" to another user every day. It's possible that daters and app-developers alike have begun to observe the effects of what social scientists call "choice overload" or the "paradox of choice." The more options you have, research suggests, the less likely you are to make any decision at all.
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LinkedIn's Career Advice App Vs. Bumble Bizz
BUSINESS INSIDER - Dec 16 - Shana Lebowitz from Business Insider has recently tried out two new, digital approaches to networking: LinkedIn Career Advice and Bumble Bizz. She had a hard time connecting with fellow journalists and starting conversations on both. Bumble Bizz proved to facilitate a more enjoyable, seamless experience - although not that effective in actually meeting people. LinkedIn has just recently launched its Career Advice feature. It allows users to find potential mentors and mentees and chat online or offline. Bumble Bizz is connecting women and men with similar professional interests.
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Psychologist Eli Finkel: Tinder And Bumble Are The Only Dating Services Worth Your Time
BUSINESS INSIDER - Sep 28 - Psychologist Eli Finkel says the only real advantage to online dating is that it introduces you to tons of potential dates. There's no evidence that matching algorithms work, Finkel says. That's why Finkel thinks apps like Tinder and Bumble are the best option for single people today. Finkel is a psychologist at Northwestern University and a professor at the Kellogg School of Management; he's also the author of "The All-or-Nothing Marriage." Finkel and his colleagues have been studying online dating for years."
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The Most Important Quality In A Romantic Partner Is Much Harder To Spot
BUSINESS INSIDER - July 27 - "Two people who are able to competently handle all of the sh-- that hits the fan. That's the biggest thing a long-term relationship needs in order to be successful," said Alexandra Solomon, a psychologist at Northwestern University. She teaches a course at Northwestern called "Marriage 101"; she recently published a book titled "Loving Bravely." In the book, Solomon guides readers on a journey toward relational self-awareness. She is saying that it is important to find a relationally self-aware partner because "external trappings" - think jobs, income, appearance - tend to "come and go." It's not so easy to gauge someone's relational self-awareness level on the first few dates. But if you notice that the person blows up at the waiter for bringing them the wrong drink, that's not a great sign. Solomon also suggests paying attention to how the person talks about their past relationships.
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We Can Tell If A First Date Is Going Well Based On Language Choice
BUSINESS INSIDER - June 3 - Seth Stephens-Davidowitz, New York Times writer, former Google data scientist, and author of "Everybody Lies" reveals the common language used on successful first dates. A man can increase his odds of getting a second date if he shows support. If he says things like, "that must be tough," or, "that sounds hard." He can also increase the odds of a second date if he laughs at a woman's jokes and doesn't interrupt her constantly. For men, the most beautiful word is "I." When a woman talks about herself more, it's actually a sign that she likes him, she feels comfortable opening up.
by Noah Friedman, Shana Lebowitz & Alana Kakoyiannis
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